Your mindset is an important key role in creating financial independence. A positive mindset goes far beyond saying positive affirmations and having positive thoughts. To develop a positive and fulfilling mindset, you may first go back to your origins. After all, your relationship with money goes much deeper than what you are experiencing in the here and now.
This article was written by Sophie Accardi, Elfin expert.
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Formation of thoughts about money
The thoughts you have around money and financial independence are already formed in your younger years (and sometimes well before that). Perhaps you recognize yourself in the following thoughts:
- For money, I need to work hard.
- I am always short of money at the end of the month.
- I’m afraid of not having enough and losing it all.
- I am not worthy to experience financial independence.
How you view money has a lot to do with your inner attitude, the conditioning from your family system and the messages you have been given about money from home. Think back to your childhood and ask yourself the following questions:
- How was money talked about within my family of origin?
- Were there sufficient financial resources or were they acting from deficit?
- Did your parents look for financial security or did they dare to take risks?
- Was money squandered or every dime turned over?
It is not only the family you grew up in that influences your thinking and actions. That influence may also have originated with your grandparents or even further back in the family line. Poverty, wealth and bankruptcies from previous generations can carry over into your current life.
Now I hear you thinking, “I have no idea what went on in my family system generations back and how I can influence it in the here and now.” No worries, I got your back. The method I use for this is a family constellation. A family constellation can give you insight into what is in the undercurrent between you and financial independence. It is an extremely effective way to gain insight into the dynamics and patterns that arise from the system you are in. This does not require you to have insight into your entire family history surrounding your relationship to money. A family constellation exposes the essence and from there your awareness around this theme changes and you create a positive mindset from a purer starting point.
Exercise to expand your awareness
To get you a step started, you can do the exercise below to increase your awareness of your thoughts around financial independence and money:
1. Notice your thoughts and statements around financial independence and money.
2. Write these down over several weeks
3. Examine whether a common thread can be identified.
For example, are you coming from a place of deficit or from abundance.
4. To whom within your family system can you link the origin of these thoughts and statements, write this down.
If you want to create a positive mindset around financial independence and money, don’t simply ignore your thoughts by not letting them in. Expand your awareness around this topic by examining the origin of your thoughts, acknowledging them and taking your place in them. From this neutral place, you can develop a firm and pure foundation for a positive mindset.
Want to know more about what a family constellation can do for you? Then feel free to contact me at info@sophieaccardi.nl
